Amazingly yesterday managed to start out all screwed up right from the get go. We woke up to a note on the door from yet another CPS worker about another alleged complaint. We had this happen back in August, but that time it was to let us know that there had been a complaint of possible sexual abuse but she was only there to let us know that is was all looked into already and it was a completely unfounded claim and the case would be closed immediately. This time it was a physical abuse complaint that supposedly Scott was punching Anthony and Kaylee in the face often. The kids once again were talked to and the little 3 backed it up but apparently sounded very coerced. Once they talked to Ashleigh all doubt was put aside and once again another completely unfounded claim. They are digging so badly now it's getting ridiculous which makes me think they know they have not much ground to stand on with the things that happened at the meeting yesterday.
Fast forward til noon yesterday and it's time for the dreaded PPC meeting. These are held before most court dates and there has to be one whenever a child is getting moved. In this case for both reasons. We had 12 different people there plus us including the 1 foster mom, our cps worker, his supervisor, our bethany services worker and numerous others. I knew as soon as I saw how many were there that this wasn't going to be a good thing at all. There also is a neutral (yeah right) outside moderator to keep things mostly on track.
The first thing brought up is that the foster mom that has the little 3 is giving them up. Now granted that is mostly good news since the issues we've seen with Kaylee and all that but this now means they are being split up. Stephie has a home already waiting but Kaylee and Anthony get to return to the temporary place possibly for awhile with them being special needs. This temporary home mainly houses kids parents can't control and behavior issues/mental illnesses along with a few foster kids so it's not where I want those two at all. Ashleigh spent 3 weeks there before going where she is now and she hated every moment of it.
Then on to what we are doing wrong and what they will be asking this time around. We thoroughly figured with them being how they have been so far, they are asking for them to stay in foster care and revisit in 90 days again. Nope they announce they have changed it to asking for termination in 90 days! I was absolutely floored and really still am.
Then onto finances which went great too. First off we only have my social security because he is court bound not to work. So yeah you can't complain about low income when it's your fault our income is low. Doesn't stop them though. I am directly asked how we will manage to maintain with the kids come home and I answer dead honestly. Kaylee gets SSI so there's another $700 a month and 2 kids will qualify under me for another $700 plus possibly the same backpay I got so we now are over $2000 per month and rent is only $550. That was taken as we only want the kids back for their money and supposedly is being told that way to the judge. Um no I merely answered the damn question honestly on what would happen if the kids came home. Then they go into how we shouldn't have bought the van (we had no vehicle) and we shouldn't have spent money on 1 present each mind you for the kids for christmas. Nothing is said positive about us buying the new bunkbed they requested or the other things we did buy that they asked and said they will be telling the judge we cannot manage funds tomorrow. They don't say word one about the couple stupid things we did get. Only bitch about the positive things we did buy that we shouldn't have. They also say nothing when I comment on all the bills we paid on, rent and stuff we absolutely needed. They also have a huge problem that I didn't save much of it. There is a damn good reason why and I showed them proof of it already so this shocked me. I cannot have more than a certain amount in assets or I lose my monthly benefits and my insurance. That cannot happen. Also the kids then would not qualify for either themselves and that is completely unacceptable so yes I spent enough so that won't happen but that's bad too.
Then onto the biggest thing they used to remove the kids and every time we are in the courtroom since then. My health. This time their leg to stand on is so much weaker. I am back on all meds. I am now seeing my doctor every 2 weeks along with physical therapy twice per week, counseling 2 times monthly, spine center soon, MS clinic tomorrow, pain management monthly for now etc. Last time I was seeing a doctor and on some meds. Period. I also had no insurance and was not able to do what I am now. That was why last time we were in court the judge had said something about my social security and insurance possibly being the big turning point in our case and wished me luck that I won when I saw the SSI judge 2 days later. I obviously won and am taking the best care of me I can minus a specialist for the syringomyelia and the probable tethered cord.
The CPS worker and his boss really have this huge thing with believing that social security doesn't come on time or wrong amounts etc and if you ask any place, most places prefer to give credit to people with those incomes because it is guaranteed. There was a problem this month with my check yes, BUT the problem is fixed and was related to my backpay. During the 9 years Kaylee has had hers, the only time there was problems was back in the check days. Once I had it switched to the card it was like clockwork. As Scott brought up to them, any of you could be laid off at anytime. This is better than what you could end up facing. And once he can, Scott does fully intend to work at least during the kids school time even if it is only part time so this whole issue really annoys me. I honestly think the judge will be happy at least on this.
So now with them making all this stuff out to be so bad I don't know how to feel. On one hand I am scared to death because they are asking for termination in 90 days but on the other I don't know that their hand is even slightly strong enough for him to even consider it. About the worst they have is "me speaking inappropriately to the kids" and their example was Anthony wanting me to get on the floor with him and I told him I couldn't because I had just had shots in my back the day before. Of course it was worded as I just wanted the attention all on me. Things were said that day yes but only because I had to to protect me and them since it was the day after having 8 injections in my hip and sacro illiac area.
I just don't know whether my thinking is right on their "big issues" or if they are. I have no idea which side the judge will truly take. Add in to that the fact they already are not on his happy list thanks to calls from our lawyers about missed visits and also the possible abuse, and I want to say he will side with us but my gut instinct is to go with the worst since that's how it's seemed to go so far.
Today Scott also had a rather revealing meeting with our Bethany Services worker who stayed after we left at the PPC and listened to stuff not meant for our ears. She made the comment that she has been to quite a few of these and never seen them pick apart at a family like this and they have an agenda for some reason. We want to get her on the stand (should be no problem) and have her testify to this along with other things. She could really help with proving they've once again lost all objectivity just like Kay before them.
So now it's just sitting here going through every scenario possible and waiting for it to be 3:30.